Peterina Oforiwaa Frempong 
Relationships are supposed to bring a sense of belonging, support, and love, but sometimes, perfectionism in relationships can be toxic instead of nurturing the relationship. When we set unrealistic standards for ourselves or our partners, it can cause tension and strain, this can lead to unhealthy relationships. Let’s explore together 10 relatable and practical ways to avoid perfectionism and build a stronger, healthier relationship.
1.Recognize the Signs of Perfectionism
First, we need to understand what perfectionism looks like in a relationship. Do you often feel disappointed when things don’t go exactly how you imagined? Do you expect your partner to always act in a certain way? These are signs of perfectionism. It’s important to notice these behaviors so you can work on them.
2.Understand the Pressure to Be Perfect
Next, let’s think about why we feel pressured to be perfect. Maybe we see other couples on social media who seem to have it all together. Or we worry about what others will think of our relationship. But remember, no one is perfect, and trying to meet these impossible standards can make your relationship feel stressful.
3. Accept That Flaws Are Normal
Here’s a big truth: everyone has flaws, and that’s okay! No one is perfect, and neither are relationships. Learning to accept your partner’s imperfections (and your own) will make both of you feel more comfortable and happy. Imperfections are what make us unique!
4. Talk Openly About Expectations
Another important step is to talk about your expectations. Do you expect your partner to read your mind or always do things perfectly? Sit down and have an honest conversation about what you both want. When you communicate clearly, it’s easier to avoid misunderstandings and disappointments.
5. Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Other
It’s easy to look at other couples and think they have the perfect relationship. But comparing your relationship to others is harmful. Every relationship is different, and what works for one couple might not work for another. Focus on what makes your relationship special, not how it measures up to others.
6. Set Realistic Goals Together
It’s good to have goals in a relationship, but make sure they are realistic otherwise you will find yourself waking up migraine. Instead of expecting things to always go smoothly, work together to set small, achievable goals. This way, you both feel accomplished and happy without the pressure of perfection.
7.Be Kind to Yourself and Your Partner
We all make mistakes. Instead of getting upset when things don’t go perfectly, try to be kind to yourself and your partner. Forgive mistakes, and remember that learning from them makes the relationship stronger. Being patient and loving will make both of you feel valued.
8.Let Go of the Need for Control
Perfectionism often makes people want to control everything in a relationship. But trying to control every little thing will only cause frustration. Let go of the need for control and trust your partner. Allowing things to flow naturally can bring more peace and happiness.
9. Appreciate the Effort, Not Just the Outcome
Instead of focusing on perfect results, focus on the effort. If your partner tries to make you happy or solve a problem, appreciate the attempt, even if it doesn’t go exactly as planned. It’s the thought and effort that matter the most in a relationship.
10. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
If you feel that perfectionism is really affecting your relationship, don’t hesitate to ask for help. A counselor or therapist can help you and your partner understand your feelings and guide you through ways to improve your relationship. Asking for help shows strength, not weakness.
Conclusion
In the end, no relationship is perfect, and that’s what makes them real and meaningful.
By accepting each other’s flaws, communicating openly, and focusing on effort instead of perfection, you can avoid unrealistic standards and build a stronger, more loving relationship.
Take a moment today to reflect on your own relationship and see where you can apply these steps. Perfection isn’t the goal , love, understanding, and growth are.
